Whenever you’re trying to create a to-do list or prioritize your schedule, do you ever catch yourself saying I should do this or I should do that? For instance, I should spend more time at work or I should eat healthier. Whenever we use the word “should”, it always seems to have a negative meaning attached to it – like you’re being forced to do something you really don’t want to do.
Think about this: if you only did things you wanted to do, would you be a little happier?
If you want to stop doing things you “should” do and start doing more things you “want” to do, then just do it. It’s as simple as that. Here’s why:
Stop Making Yourself Feel Guilty
Sometimes, we do things only because we feel like we have to do them for someone or something else. While that’s not always a bad thing, letting it happen often causes you to feel guilt. You end up spending so much time on things that benefit other people and not enough time on yourself.
Do Things That Make Yourself Better
Whether we realize it or not, we tend to follow a path that others create for us. Sometimes, it’s the right thing for us to do and other times, it’s not. Before you start making plans, you should ask yourself what you are gaining. It’s easy to be the nice guy and always do things for others. But you can still be the nice guy and do things for yourself.
What You Should Do And Want To Do Are Not The Same
We tend to confuse these two things but there is a big difference – what you should do and want you want to do are not the same thing. Yes, what you should do and what you want to do are sometimes the exact same thing; however, they aren’t interchangeable. When you say you should do something, you’re often referring to doing something that someone else or society in general wants you to do. When you say you want to do something, you’re referring to something you enjoy to do or are passionate about.
It’s difficult to say we should stop doing things we “should” do because that’s just simply not true. There will always be things that we should do and things that we have to get done, even if we don’t want to. However, if we decided to do more things we wanted to do, we’d probably feel a little happier and little more fulfilled.