Learn To Be Happy

Learn how to be happy

It’s Sunday night and Monday morning is creeping closer. You’re trying your hardest to enjoy the rest of the weekend but the inevitable start of the work week is almost upon you and it’s putting a damper on what would’ve otherwise been a great weekend.

If you dread going to work Monday mornings, you aren’t alone. Many people are unhappy with their jobs, which starts to affect life outside of work. This leads to poor productivity, a bad work environment, and overall, unhappiness.

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Getting What You Want: The Power of Asking

Ask For What You Want

You want something so badly—but you just can’t seem to get it. Instead of waiting for someone to notice you, some times the best thing to do is to just ask. But why is that so difficult?

Whether it is a pay raise or a ride to the airport from a friend, it seems that pride, fear or some form of bashfulness impedes us from asking. This is not abnormal, in fact the inability to ask may be from a sense of admirable humility, but often we fail to realize that people are open to our ask, whether it is for help or asking for the sale.

Below are three quick tips to get to a better ask.

1. Don’t Assume The Negative

We often think that our needs or requests are in direct contradiction to those who can help. “It is too much of an inconvenience” we may think, or we may assume that our ask will offend someone. In short, our egos are at risk—after all, no one likes to be rejected. However, to get to a better ask, don’t bog yourself down with these thoughts. Instead, think of times that someone has asked you for something: help, a favor, a service that you needed. Odds are you probably obliged, and even if you didn’t, you at least provided reasoning for why you did not. It is reasonable to expect that whoever you ask will do the same.

2. Do Your Research

Don’t walk into an ask blindly. In the world of business, this often means doing your research. What specifically are you asking for? Think of what your ideal outcome would be and work backwards. Vagueness, even if granted your ask, may not create your anticipated outcome.  Also, who are you asking? By researching a potential client or employer, you vastly increase you ability to personalize and customize your approach to asking. Who have they worked with in the past and what was the nature of the work? Look for patterns.  Be honest with your approach. If you get a chance to meet prior to the ‘big ask’ make sure that you listen first, talk second.

3. Explain First, Ask Second

Explaining your ask before asking for it can be one of the simplest, most effective ways to get what you want. By explaining first, you build your case for the ask. This also helps to avoid potential conflict or a ‘power struggle.’

A quick, easy example is this: say you are in a drafty room and are getting chilly. There are two constructs you can use to ask for someone to close the door:

“Close the door, its getting cold in here.”

…or…

“Its getting a little cold in here, would you mind closing the door?”

See the difference? In the second scenario, you sound far less demanding, but still get the result you wanted!

So, what will you ask for first? Here’s one last tip: start small. By exercising your ‘asking muscle’ you will soon find that you become a pro at getting what you want. Go ahead, get our there and start asking.

4 Ways To Build Your Brand: Looking Above The Bottom Line

Branding

“Branding” is a word often stifles business owners. By its very nature, the idea of a brand is in many ways nontangible, and therefore hard to quantify. What does it mean to have a brand? What does it have to do with improving my bottom line?

Creating a brand means looking beyond just the supply and demand of your service, and the bottom line of your business. Ironically, when you do this, you will in turn see your business improve, as more and more people begin to connect and identify with your company.

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Stop Doing What You Think You Should Do

Stop Doing What You Think You Should

 

Whenever you’re trying to create a to-do list or prioritize your schedule, do you ever catch yourself saying I should do this or I should do that? For instance, I should spend more time at work or I should eat healthier. Whenever we use the word “should”, it always seems to have a negative meaning attached to it – like you’re being forced to do something you really don’t want to do.

Think about this: if you only did things you wanted to do, would you be a little happier?

If you want to stop doing things you “should” do and start doing more things you “want” to do, then just do it. It’s as simple as that. Here’s why:

Stop Making Yourself Feel Guilty

Sometimes, we do things only because we feel like we have to do them for someone or something else. While that’s not always a bad thing, letting it happen often causes you to feel guilt. You end up spending so much time on things that benefit other people and not enough time on yourself.

Do Things That Make Yourself Better

Whether we realize it or not, we tend to follow a path that others create for us. Sometimes, it’s the right thing for us to do and other times, it’s not. Before you start making plans, you should ask yourself what you are gaining. It’s easy to be the nice guy and always do things for others. But you can still be the nice guy and do things for yourself.

What You Should Do And Want To Do Are Not The Same

We tend to confuse these two things but there is a big difference – what you should do and want you want to do are not the same thing. Yes, what you should do and what you want to do are sometimes the exact same thing; however, they aren’t interchangeable. When you say you should do something, you’re often referring to doing something that someone else or society in general wants you to do. When you say you want to do something, you’re referring to something you enjoy to do or are passionate about.

It’s difficult to say we should stop doing things we “should” do because that’s just simply not true. There will always be things that we should do and things that we have to get done, even if we don’t want to. However, if we decided to do more things we wanted to do, we’d probably feel a little happier and little more fulfilled.

Learn To Be A Kid Again

Learn To Be A Kid Again

Remember the days when you were a kid? You didn’t have much to worry about, except who you were going to share your snacks with or who had cooties in school. Those days were carefree and all about having fun.

Have you ever thought to yourself, “I wish I could be a kid again”? As an adult, you probably have many times. It’s easy to think back to your childhood and regret that you didn’t spend more time appreciating it.

While you may be an adult now and have real responsibilities, that doesn’t mean you can’t feel like a kid again. In fact, we all need to every now and again. It’s easy to get caught up in work and life but sometimes we have to remind ourselves to live a little and laugh.

Don’t take everything so seriously

As an adult, an important lesson to learn is to take everything you do seriously and do it to the best of your ability. However, there are times when it’s OK to relax a little. Learn not to take everything so seriously. While it may seem irresponsible, it will help you look at the bigger picture. Don’t sweat the small things when they don’t matter in the end. Not everything will go your way and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Don’t stress over the things you can’t control.

Be spontaneous

When was the last time you did something spontaneous, crazy, or spur of the moment? As kids, we don’t think, we just do. Of course, that’s not a good way to go through your adult life. But every once in awhile, those are the moments you need. We can tend to schedule everything down to the last minute. While it keeps us on track, we also have to remember to take a few moments here and there and do something that isn’t on our list. Be a little wild and crazy every now and then. You never know what new idea can come out of it.

Stop worrying

As a society and as adults, we all tend to worry too much. We worry about work, money, our families, etc. – the list can go on and on. Worrying is not always negative. It keeps us grounded and makes us realize what more we have to accomplish. At the same time, we need to learn to stop worrying so much. Most of the time, it isn’t healthy. Learn to accept the circumstances for what they are. If you can’t change them, there’s no use worrying over it.

Laugh a little more

And finally, laugh. As kids, we found laughter and humor in such basic things. Learn to do that as an adult. Find happiness in whatever you do: it’s there.