Learn To Be Happy

Learn how to be happy

It’s Sunday night and Monday morning is creeping closer. You’re trying your hardest to enjoy the rest of the weekend but the inevitable start of the work week is almost upon you and it’s putting a damper on what would’ve otherwise been a great weekend.

If you dread going to work Monday mornings, you aren’t alone. Many people are unhappy with their jobs, which starts to affect life outside of work. This leads to poor productivity, a bad work environment, and overall, unhappiness.

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4 Ways to Win the Battle Against Burnout

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If you’re feeling stressed out over work or home life, you may be feeling burnt out. Many people shrug burnout as just something you can treat with a brief vacation. It’s not that simple. Often times, burnout is caused by larger underlying issues. The only way to treat it is to attack the problem at the source.

Many people don’t take burnout seriously and that’s unfortunate because it can truly impact the way you live your life, how productive you are, and ultimately, how happy you are. You may be experiencing burnout at work if:

  • You dread going to work everyday
  • Your work life is consuming your whole life
  • You don’t have enough time to take care of yourself and your health
  • You’re struggling to find motivation

While there are many other signs of burnout, these are some of the most common. And when you ignore them, they only get worse. When you finally come to the realization that you need a break, here is what you can do:

Learn to say no.

Many people bite off more than they can chew. The consequence of that rears its ugly head in the form of burnout. Accept that you can’t always do everything. That doesn’t make you lazy or unambitious. It makes you realistic. Challenge yourself as much as you can but realize that everyone has a limit. It’s OK to say no.

Ask for help.

Some people seem like they can do it all and have it all. That doesn’t mean you have to be the same way. Asking for help doesn’t make you weak or incapable. On the contrary, it makes you better. You’ll be able to learn more about others and learn from another’s perspective. There is nothing wrong for asking for help every once in awhile. Everyone needs it.

Stop thinking about what you should do.

Sometimes, burnout is caused by doing something you probably shouldn’t be doing. We all feel a need at some point or another to conform to what someone else or society thinks we should do. The fix here is simple: stop thinking about what you should do or what others want you to do. Do what you want to.

Take a break.

No matter what you do, sometimes the only cure for burnout is taking a much needed break. Don’t be afraid to take your vacation days. Take an extended trip somewhere you never been with your loved ones. Don’t think about work. Everything will be OK, even if you don’t respond to that email.

Getting What You Want: The Power of Asking

Ask For What You Want

You want something so badly—but you just can’t seem to get it. Instead of waiting for someone to notice you, some times the best thing to do is to just ask. But why is that so difficult?

Whether it is a pay raise or a ride to the airport from a friend, it seems that pride, fear or some form of bashfulness impedes us from asking. This is not abnormal, in fact the inability to ask may be from a sense of admirable humility, but often we fail to realize that people are open to our ask, whether it is for help or asking for the sale.

Below are three quick tips to get to a better ask.

1. Don’t Assume The Negative

We often think that our needs or requests are in direct contradiction to those who can help. “It is too much of an inconvenience” we may think, or we may assume that our ask will offend someone. In short, our egos are at risk—after all, no one likes to be rejected. However, to get to a better ask, don’t bog yourself down with these thoughts. Instead, think of times that someone has asked you for something: help, a favor, a service that you needed. Odds are you probably obliged, and even if you didn’t, you at least provided reasoning for why you did not. It is reasonable to expect that whoever you ask will do the same.

2. Do Your Research

Don’t walk into an ask blindly. In the world of business, this often means doing your research. What specifically are you asking for? Think of what your ideal outcome would be and work backwards. Vagueness, even if granted your ask, may not create your anticipated outcome.  Also, who are you asking? By researching a potential client or employer, you vastly increase you ability to personalize and customize your approach to asking. Who have they worked with in the past and what was the nature of the work? Look for patterns.  Be honest with your approach. If you get a chance to meet prior to the ‘big ask’ make sure that you listen first, talk second.

3. Explain First, Ask Second

Explaining your ask before asking for it can be one of the simplest, most effective ways to get what you want. By explaining first, you build your case for the ask. This also helps to avoid potential conflict or a ‘power struggle.’

A quick, easy example is this: say you are in a drafty room and are getting chilly. There are two constructs you can use to ask for someone to close the door:

“Close the door, its getting cold in here.”

…or…

“Its getting a little cold in here, would you mind closing the door?”

See the difference? In the second scenario, you sound far less demanding, but still get the result you wanted!

So, what will you ask for first? Here’s one last tip: start small. By exercising your ‘asking muscle’ you will soon find that you become a pro at getting what you want. Go ahead, get our there and start asking.